This scene was actually when I went from feeling more or less neutral on Joan to actively disliking her.
Because wow, that was patronizing.
I loved that scene in Elementary.
1) Firstly, because it immediately deconstructs the “hero throws and breaks something in frustration” cliche (Sherlock throwing a glass slide in HoB, anyone?) it might even be seen as a parody of that cliche.
2) Secondly, because the dynamic is different between a man and a woman than it would be between two women or two men, the visual of a man smashing something in a temper in front of a woman can be taken as threatening or borderline abusive. Joan Watson immediately shows that she is not intimidated by Holmes’ behavior.
3) Lastly? One of the running themes of Elementary is the deconstruction of Sherlock Holmes as the solitary, antisocial genius, and his becoming a member of a community. Holmes’ gifts are given their due respect, but no one in Elementary plays the game of Because Sherlock Holmes is a Bloody Genius He Can Do Whatever He Wants So There. When Sherlock goes after Moriarty (“M”), Captain Gregson suspends him. When Sherlock doesn’t want to talk about his addiction, Alfredo says “You’ve got to get over yourself.” And when Sherlock behaves like a spoiled child, Joan tells him “Use your words.”
You see Joan patronizing Sherlock. I see a member of Sherlock’s community teaching him how to behave like an adult member of that community.
Additionally, Watson’s done good work for a number of years as a sober companion, not a manchild enabler. It’s quite literally her job to deconstruct people’s shitty self-defeating habits and demonstrate that there are better ways to live your life. She’s not in the business of humoring anyone or playing along with their tantrums, she’s in the business of fixing them. And what she does works! It gets spelled out explicitely in the text of the show: Sherlock himself admits that what’s changed about him, for the better, is her.
This is the best show, THE BEST SHOW.
I just need that entire comment on my blog:
“It’s just a bullshit PR campaign, nothing more. Telling kids to put up with bullying until they leave school is not constructive advice. It’s cruel. School boards, school administrators, teachers, etc., need to have zero tolerance policy for bullying. It’s not uncommon for teachers to bully unpopular kids themselves. That’s where the changes need to be made. But that requires action, and it requires standing up to conservatives who fight anti-bullying campaigns tooth and nail (often claiming that bullying gay people is a christian right). The reason “It Gets Better” caught on with politicians and celebrities is because it’s great PR and it requires absolutely NOTHING from them in the way of real action.
It’s cruelty to tell a kid to tolerate bullying. And to whom is this campaign even directed? The fat gay kids that Savage makes fun of himself? It’s a campaign aimed at good looking white boys with great bodies and upper middle class families. Yes, THEY will do better once they start hitting the gay bars. But for most average looking kids from working class families, they will find a gay community that’s often very much like High School, with cliques and teasing and rejection. Gay kids need to get support from society, and the kids that need that most are the kids that Savage himself would mock and demonize; kids of color, working class and poor kids, fat kids, kids with acne, and kids who are otherwise marginalized in society AND in our community.
Even when you look at the videos on YouTube, you see politicians who’ve come out against marriage equality, sports teams that would never accept a gay person in their ranks, and celebrities who just want some good press. The gay kids who participate are often great looking white boys, who you know will be accepted in the gay community, and are already leading charmed lives. It’s a campaign for the people Savage likes…sexy white male teenagers with athletic bodies who will be greeted with open arms.
I’ll take the campaign seriously when Savage speaks out on behalf of marginalized gay kids, and criticizes the gay community for its racism and other prejudices. But he’s the biggest bigot and bully of the bunch, and that’s been proven from his many years as a “columnist.” I often couldn’t believe how conservative, prejudiced, and intolerant he was in those columns.”
Also trans people.
Dan Savage doesn’t care about the T, and he’s been actively, grossly cissexist on many distinct occasions.
Not to mention asexuals, women, lower-class people, etc.
Let’s face it kids, Dan Savage is the most hypocritical douchebag in the queer rights movement.
But yes I agree with everything that has been posted above.
don’t forget that he thinks bisexuals in general need to “make up their mind” and that male bisexuals are essentially unicorns
I once had an extended argument over when he was glitter-bombed because he’s a huge hypocritical transphobe. You can’t claim to be a trans* ally and then hurl transphobic slurs at your enemies. There’s no complicit-by-ignorance-and-stupidity argument to be made there - that’s just straight up transphobia. He is not an ‘activist.’ He is making a great living by essentially capitalizing on the intersection of his hegemonic identities and a burgeoning pinkwashed economy.
liking all the commentary here, and yeah that’s always bugged me about the “it gets better” campaign; it should be made better for kids NOW, not just waiting for them to get older and for their life to stop sucking
savage doesnt give a shit about #rape victims either oohh tss….
I think we all agree that dan savage is a stinky, puckered asshole.
Agree with everything mentioned, and adding more links
(I’ve probably doubled up on some links but w/e)
And this is just from like, the first page of google. I also wanna mention that he has a penchant to call other gay/lesbian people f*gs and d*kes which is never ok, unless the person has explicitly said that’s an ok term to use cor them.
You can now register online to be an organ donor! If you’ve ever worried about your wishes not being adhered to because they’re not clear, you can now fill out an actual form and declare it, which I assume would return a notification based on your AHC number when you’re admitted to the hospital.
So I just got back last night from a brony convention in San Francisco. I was working a booth for a vendor friend, and let me tell you what happened:
We met a little girl who was there with her family. She got a button drawn at our booth, told us all about her favorite ponies, and was overall just too damn cute. She had an MLP lanyard filled with pins she’d gotten in the vendor’s room, and gave me a Fluttershy pin because she liked my cosplay. She ended up just hanging out with us for a while and bein’ super cute. We call her Babby because she’s 11 and precious.
The next day, she runs up to the booth, terrified, and asks if she can please hide under our table for a few minutes. Turns out a dude had been following her around the con all day, and tried to get her to come up to his hotel room. Alone. She tells us she thought he was okay at first because he was wearing an MLP shirt, but she didn’t want to go anywhere with him, and he made her uneasy. At one point, after she’d refused, he grabbed her arm in the elevators and tried to get her to follow him. She ran, and now she wants somewhere to hide.
We tell her of course, hurry her behind our booth and fucking station ourselves around her because she’s eleven years old and all of us are prepared to physically attack the human trashheap who tries to fuck with her. We’re all dressed up in wings and ears and we’re 100000% prepared to rip them off and launch across that table to defend this kid. Eventually this very large dude strolls by, very obviously looking around, and she quietly points him out to us. At this point I’m ready to set him on fire, but when I ask if she needs me to go report him, she shakes her head. She doesn’t want to get in trouble, or make anyone mad.
We see him a few more times over the course of the day, because he keeps meandering over to our booth and just casually looking around. Eventually he actually stops to take a flier from our table and asks us a question, and we coldly send him on his way. We start sending a coworker with Babby whenever her parents aren’t around and she wants to go check out artist’s alley or the vendor’s hall. Because otherwise she’s not safe. She can’t run around and freely enjoy a convention about a show aimed at her, because instead of being surrounded by peers she’s somehow surrounded by men who pose a threat to her.
My point here: this is why I fucking hate “bronies.” Because grown-ass men are flooding into a space carved out for children—often little girls—and are making it unsafe for them.
I met a lot of non-awful people there, of course. I met a lot of parents and older siblings. A lot of adorable little boys who were happy to empathize with female characters, and a lot of little kids who wanted a picture with cosplays of their favorite pony. I met a lot of people who were cool and nice and just liked cartoons. I met a male Pinkie Pie cosplayer with a Fluttershy lady-friend who juggled and spun plates and was happy to entertain kids, and were generally just really cool people.
But I also met a lot of skeevy dudebros. A lot of guys in fedoras loudly discussing sexual shit in a room with children. Guys who drew/sold/displayed really fucking inappropriate “fanart,” including gross bodypillows that had no purpose in a little kids’ toy convention. I met a guy who gushed with absolute glee about the pleasure he derives from “corrupting innocence.” I met a lot of people who wanted to take something sweet and nice for children and make it about THEM. A lot of guys who wanted to make it about their dicks. People who made it UNSAFE for the intended audience to even be in attendance.
So yeah. If you call yourself a brony, I’m prolly not gonna trust you. Because I’ve seen y’all in action, and I am not impressed. Frankly I’m infuriated. This is like a bunch of gross neckbeards swarming Disneyland and shoving kids out of the way so they can grope Cinderella, and finding nothing wrong with it because they think they’re entitled to it.
My Little Pony is a really cute show with a lot of nice messages for kids, and gross brony shitweasels are trying to fucking take it from them by force. And I will fight them.
Also, this story has been corroborated by the 4chan news site for /mlp/ (barf) which found proof from the booth owner/Sac Anime rep that there was a little girl who took refuge at the booth that day: http://www.horse-news.net/2014/04/advice-for-babscon-delete-facebook-hit_22.html?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter
"I met a guy who gushed with absolute glee about the pleasure he derives from “corrupting innocence.””
^^^ This is what the problem with your average brony is. If you like a show about ponies? What the fuck ever, I don’t care, like it. It’s not a girl thing. But the desire to corrupt something that is NOT sexual, something that is specifically aimed at children, is fucking creepy. This is the unstated motivation I sense behind many bronies. How many of them just like the story in its base form, without the sexualization of childlike anthropomorphized characters? Not many, as far as I can tell.
The NYPD tried to start a hashtag outpouring of positive memories with their police force.
If this were ever a bad idea, it was probably the worst idea for arguably the most corrupt police force in America.
And just how did they think this was going to play out/
my thoughts EXACTLY
They played themselves. I can’t stop laughing!
Honestly, my first response was
#if i was kidding you i’d be wearing a fez and no pants
but everyone else did it better.
icuria asked: Except in cases of rare genetic disorder like Kleinfelter's Syndrome, there is only female and male, XX and XY chromosomes.
Except in cases of rare cis enlightenment, there are only cis people who don’t know anything about biology and cis people who parrot eighth grade biology at trans people, uninformed assholes and willfully ignorant pissfrogs.
Why does every casual cis person to stumble along assume they know more about a subject they probably haven’t even thought about since freshman year of high school than women whose lives revolve around it, and who routinely have to educate their own doctors?
Do they assume everything they learned about playing house in kindergarten is all their is to marriage? Are they confused when players don’t tear the flags off each other in the Superbowl? Do they get into their first college calculus class and scream “This is bullshit! There’s only plus and minus and times and long dividing!” No. They realize what they were taught as children is a simplified version of the world. So why is it they can’t remember that simple truth when talking to trans women about our own biology?
I’m genuinely curious, then. Educate us when we don’t know, instead of screaming about how we’re just a bunch of ignoramuses. Cause last I checked, just saying “I’m right because shut up” doesn’t really prove anything or explain to the other person WHY they’re wrong.
Well bless your heart! The sum total of human knowledge spread out before you on the internet in an easily-searchable format, but like a child too spoiled to microwave their own cup of soup, you demand I put aside my exasperation and exhaustion and needs and spoon feed you a lesson in biology.
First and foremost, let’s look at comparative credentials, which is really what my post was about. Original “ask” is from someone who is 15, male, and admits on their front page they are “lazy and stupid.” Hexgoddess is an adult woman whose lived experience revolves around this topic. I am a woman in her early thirties with an anthropology degree, who has been writing about trans experiences and theory off an on for over ten years. We are experts. We don’t HAVE to make some elaborate arguments to dismiss the uninformed ramblings of random internet trolls every single time one of them pipes up with a half-assed scientific “theory” or “brilliant” observation. We’ve heard them before, many times, and they’ve been thoroughly debunked. Sometimes on this very blog.
Now, if you want to actually get into the specifics of why this fifteen year old child was wrong, let’s start with biology does not end at genetics. Genetics are one aspect of biology, but just like blueprints are not a house, your DNA is not a perfect map of what you end up with. Genes are instructions for what your body SHOULD do, but what your body actually DOES depends on hormones, environmental factors, available resources, stress, health, and many other aspects.
Secondly, XX is not inherently female, and XY is not inherently male. In humans, any number of developmental abnormalities can lead to someone with XX chromosomes appearing for all purposes to be “male” as we understand it, and likewise someone with XY chromosomes developing into what our society considers “female”. In birds, it’s the exact opposite: XX results in a male, and XY a female. In some insect species, males only develop when there’s a lack of a second sex chromosome. And these rules get even messier when you start looking at specific species that can switch their sex, or whose lifecycle runs through periods of male and female or neutral. Chromosomes are not some magical crystal ball that tells us a definitive, clean, perfect definition of a creature’s sex because…
"Sex" is a loosely defined term that biologists are still arguing about. If you’ve been seeing the internet buzz the past week or two about the discovery of an insect where the females have the penis, you’ve heard that one branch of biologists have recently defines “sex” as referring to the size of an organism’s gametes (it’s sperm or egg), and “female” refers to the members in sexual reproduction who possesses the larger gamete and hence invests more energy into reproduction. This is only one definition; there are many others, and the ones most scientists use don’t revolve around external genitalia, internal genitalia, or chromosomes. Because biological and social sciences are about tendencies more than concrete definitions. By the gametes argument, creatures without gametes (such as worker ants, postmenopausal women, anyone born sterile, and yes, even trans women) are sexless/members of a third sex. Meanwhile, anthropology defines sexes more loosely, based on social roles, presentation, secondary sex characteristics. Ask five different scientists from five different disciplines to define sex, and you’ll get five different answers.
Finally, why is it so imperative for cis people to have some trump card to throw out and insist “AHA! I caught you lying you awful liar!”? Trans people experience and interact with their society as members of their gender. The ones who pass for cis are treated like any cis member of the gender. The ones who don’t are treated worse. If a trans woman lives her life as a woman, what is the motivation in trying to find some loophole or exception to say all the misogyny and struggle she encounters as a woman don’t count? It’s about power, and the ability to dismiss our concerns and tragedies without ever examining them. Trans women get raped? That doesn’t count because they aren’t “really” womne. Trans women get paid as badly as cis women? That doesn’t count because they aren’t “really” women. Trans women want to stand in solidarity with other women against the broken system? Well they can’t, because they’re not “really” women. It’s not exposing any half-assed “truth” or insight. It’s a tool of power and humiliation, wielded by a privileged group against a minority already experiencing overwhelming violence.
So there you go: There’s your explanation why a 15-year-old’s immaculate analysis of biology was dismissed without critique by women who actually know what the fuck they’re talking about.
bisexual people passing as straight when they’re in a straight relationship is not “passing privilege.” it’s erasure. it’s assimilation.
that’s like saying that femme lesbians have privilege over butch lesbians. invisibility might keep people safer on a micro-level which is fucked up, but it’s all based on people thinking they can tell who’s queer & who’s straight just by looking at them, which is infinitely problematic and painful.
don’t alienate queer people who are assumed to be straight. invisibility is a symptom of hetero-normativity, not a privilege.